In a world where hustle is served up as the appetizer to being fulfilled and successful, seeking the next thing has become a common way of navigating life. Luckily (or unluckily) there is no shortage of stimulation. It sparks idea after idea, tantalizing my hunger to learn. On a path to growth, there will be successes and failures along the way. All opportunities to reflect and learn.
Recently I pursued a new career opportunity. I chased my curiosity because I thought it would be fun, a challenge, and a chance to broaden the impact I could have on helping people live healthier. I knew it was a stretch. I did not have all of the qualifications, but my experience is valuable and made me a unique candidate.
Each step of the way during the interview process my psychic powers were more vibrant as if the possibility that I was going to get it felt real. You know, like really really real. I thought:
OMG, This. Is. Happening.
I mean maybe.
No, it probably won’t, but what if it does?!
Then terror, excitement, fear, WHOA!
As you can probably tell by the title of this post, I did not get it. I failed. But did I? I actually don’t think so and Here’s Why:
1. Activation - The experience motivated me to fill in the gaps of what I didn’t know. It energized the part of me that loves learning. What I was not an expert in, I googled and tried to teach myself. I don’t like to not know something. I'm one of those people who wants to know it all so the challenge of seeking out the answers was fun. I felt woke. It was in a way that I haven’t been for a while now.
2. Give Up or Show Up - This was a character building endeavor. It shifted how I thought of myself. In the past when things have been hard I have found myself taking the easy way out, being complacent, chalking it up to I’m not good enough or it’s not meant to be. This time though I was challenged and went for it with everything I had.
The day I found out I could have reacted in many ways.
Scenario #1 - Cry, give up, lay in bed all day, eat peanut butter by the spoonful from the jar and polish off a bag of pretzels.
Scenario #2 - Get angry and point the finger at those involved in the interview process for not setting me up for success.
Scenario #3 - Take a spin class with a teacher who motivates and challenges me to shift my perspective, get lost in the music, and sweat it out. Maybe shed a tear on the bike too. Then seek the learnings from the process and the outcome and decide to use that as fuel for the next opportunity.
Scenario #4 - Blast Elton John’s song “I’m still standing” and dance your heart out. Guaranteed to make you feel better.
I chose to go with scenario #3 & #4 because how can you know what you don’t know unless you GO FOR IT? It takes courage to test your limits, but there's so much you get out of putting your hand to the fire and trying.
Failure is a part of life and applies to pretty much anything whether it’s trying to lose weight and falling off track, a volatile relationship, a mistake at work, etc. What if the focus wasn’t on the quantifiable, but rather the process and behaviors?
Flip the script from focusing on the scale to trying a new workout, moving in a FUN new way, and starting to fuel with healthier options. For the math wizards, who need something more tangible, what if the new equation looked like this?
Working out + healthier food choices = happily fit person
I’m grateful for the experience I had and to be honest, there is no place I’d rather be.
I accept that what happened is a clue from the universe. We are all given these clues. Will you choose to see them? And, what will YOU choose to do with them?
My mission and purpose are to serve up wisdom and inspiration from a real and vulnerable place to help you LevelUp. I invite you to come with me.
With lots of love and support.